One of the most difficult talks you’ll ever have with your parents will focus on senior care and assisted living options. If you are ready to have this talk with your aging loved one, it’s important to broach the subject from the right angle so you can avoid putting them on the defensive or feeling angry or resentful of you.
Here are some useful tips to help you prepare for this conversation.
Open the Lines of Communication
Begin by talking about your own wishes for long-term care. Sharing your thoughts and feelings can be an ice breaker for starting the conversation about your parents’ care. You might even share a story or article about families faced with decisions about long-term care.
Talk with your siblings about the situation and try to get everyone on the same page. When it is time to confront your parent, bring them with you and discuss it as a family. Consider involving your parent’s physician and other members of their support system.
Tour Facilities with Your Parent
Relieve some of your parent’s fears about long-term care by taking them on a tour of one or more senior living facilities. Today’s senior care options are varied and include plenty of activities and services in a home-like environment. Introducing your parent to such places out of the gate can help quell any tension or concerns they might have.
Keep Options Open
Never make it appear to your parent that you have made any decisions about care without them. Present multiple options and let your parent have a say in their care.